GAGNANT DE LA FAMILLE BONAPARTE ASSOCIATION meilleur film de l’Année 2013
Both Their Imperial Highnesses, Princess Melita Bonaparte & her recently discovered twin brother, Prince Roland Bonaparte II, voted unanimously for this prestigious award to be presented to cast & crew for this wondrous cinematic achievement. There was still hiding & confusion in the process of each woman to come to terms of who they were on an individual level & how they were perceived by others & how they eventually integrated the reality of being lesbian within & without. But the viewer undertands they ultimately got there. It has a far different sort of pathos than did the American film that, on a huge & heroic scale, first broke through these barriers (Brokeback Mountain), but it succeeded in a believable manner in showing that life is not a fairy tale, and that nothing is static. “Happily ever after,” that famous line in fairy tales, and eerily recounted in the homily provided by the Archbishop of Canterbury, in the wedding rites of the doomed marriage of the Prince of Wales & Lady Diana Spence applies to all of us, no matter our religion (or lack thereof), language, cultural background, or orientation.
Being a couple is difficult, no matter what the situation.
There has been much already well written about this amazing film. I think one key word is believability. The characters were written not to be larger than life nor other worldly, but a combination of the complex & mundane of urban life in the Western world, in this case Lille, France.
No matter how hard we may wish to try, some things are just not meant to be. This film deals with this issue, not through the back door, but right on through the front door. It is difficult to surrender to that, and often frustrating to “settle,” but often times that is what is required in order to survive. Friendship & mutual respect, given enough time, can overcome the unintended wounds inflicted by romance, by passion.
After the summer turns to autumn in our lives, we can (if we are open to it) see that & accept it. I believe the actors & film makers did that with a rare grace & dignity, seldom afforded within the same boundaries in which is fully shared the erotic nature of life. All of this was treated with kindness.
Interspersed within this framework are many references to art, philosophy, careers, business, ambition, children…but I have to confess, that my favourite part was the introduction of raw oysters by Emma to Adele. When she told Emma that she thought they had the texture of snotballs I screamed laughing. No one else thought it was funny, and days later, I am still thinking about how, when (as snotnosed kids) when one of us got a horrible cold, and hocked up a good one, we’d say “Fresh oyster for you.” The other ‘food’ confession was that Adele ate her scabs as a little girl. No one else laughed at that one, either, and it was funny. These are the sort of mundane & silly confessions that two people who think they are finding a mate will share with each other. It was in the small things that the greatness of this film was revealed, the plain day to day humanity.
Go have your own transformation, and enjoy shell-fish on your own & at your leisure. You owe it to yourself to try something new to celebrate this artistic achievement!
You Tube Video of Blue Is the Warmest Color (La vie d’Adèle)